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STATUS UNKNOWN: How Far Would You Go For The One You Love?

Updated: Jun 2

As we kick into June, we are proud to celebrate Pride with our rainbow filled hearts reflecting on just how far we, as a couple, have come and in honor of this we are PREMIERING our short film, STATUS UNKNOWN ~ Watch for FREE on YouTube ~ STATUS UNKNOWN is a drama based upon our true story. It depicts one particular day when, as a married bi-national lesbian couple, we faced prejudice and were on the brink of our lives being torn apart, by enforced separation!

Caroline and Laurie Hart celebrate PRIDE with the release of their short film STATUS UNKNOWN!

When Laurie and I met, back in 2005 and fell in love an ocean apart, we no idea of the journey we were about to set out on. All we knew was, we had to be together, we had to make this relationship work, despite the odds set against us!

Together at last, Caroline and Laurie Hart

Love is worth fighting for. Initially, we thought the distance was the hard part, Laurie was in Massachusetts, America and I, in West Sussex, England. With an ocean between us we fell in love across the worldwide web. After spending eight wonderful, crazy all-encompassing love packed days together in Massachusetts, we knew our love was strong enough to overcome the battles ahead.

2006, Our Wedding Day, Laurie Hart and Caroline Hart - Photo Credit Pink Photos

We had to juggle our relationship, families and work across two continents to forge our lives together. In 2006, we married in both Massachusetts and West Sussex, this made sure that both families and friends on each side of the Atlantic could not only celebrate, but witness what we had with us. Neither of us wanted to use our previous last names so we had fun deciding on a new one. As we sat on the dock at Laurie’s water front condo, overlooking the Taunton River at sunset, and, after many differing ideas, we hit upon Hart, because we both loved the American TV show Hart to Hart.

Married life was bliss with the exception of the US Federal Government. Unfortunately two marriage licenses were not enough for them. Each time I flew from London to Boston I was hauled down to immigration for intense interrogation, I’d show them my marriage certificates to prove I was legally married to an American but to no avail.

"Our marriage wasn’t recognized! Our love was not approved of!"


Story line - Facing enforced separation by the Federal Government, a bi-national lesbian couple take a public stand, proving their marriage is worth fighting for.

After years of anguish and on the brink of deportation, we were given an ultimatum. Either we fight publicly for our human rights, or I must stay in the country illegally, making it impossible to see my family in England. Of course, we chose to fight for our love and civil rights but that did come with the risk of ICE (Immigration and Customs Enforcement), knocking on our door at any moment. Soon our story took flight, celebrities, politicians, and LGBTQ advocacy groups jumped to our defense. We were amazed by the support we received and soon our love was a poster for bi-national marriage equality across the USA.

Having been thrown into this world of public activism, we took it by the horns, even though at times we were shocked by the ugliness of some haters, we were always buoyed by the support of our colorful community, family and friends. Love is love is everything worth advocating for. With the wonderful help and advice from prominent people, including but not limited to, GLAD Law’s American Civil Rights Lawyer Mary Bonauto, Immigration Equality and New York Congressman Jerry Nadler, our story went all the way to the house judiciary committee, in support of Edith Windsor’s landmark DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) case.

DOMA DAY, Caroline Hart

Finally, with the supreme court ruling section 3 of DOMA was unconstitutional, Laurie could sponsor me for my green card and that was a day for immense celebration, possibly a little too much celebration but that’s another matter. We are so grateful to all those generations before us who have fought on the frontlines for LGBTQ equality, as well as those who supported our personal fight.

Now, with my green card in the bag, we could’ve sat back and just got on with our lives, safe from the constant fear of deportation. But no, we knew the importance of advocating for nationwide marriage equality, everyone deserves to have their marriage recognized and we were in a position to use our platform to help play a part in making that happen.

Caroline Hart, Rita Wilson and Laurie Hart

With the use of TV interviews and social media, we got to work spreading the word for nationwide marriage equality. Our story was picked up by the wonderful LGBTQ ally Rita Wilson and featured in her Huffington Post Voices of Strength series. After our all OUT effort the historic day arrived when the supreme court ruling was made, legalizing gay marriage, our hearts were full. At that time, we were wedding photographers and photographing our first gay wedding after the ruling was momentous. It was the wedding of a lesbian couple, who had been waiting for this day for over twenty years, it was such a deeply moving experience. During the ceremony, as the couple exchanged their poignant vows, behind the lenses of our cameras tears pricked our eyes , this is what we fought for. Love and dignity are all we craved and not just for ourselves. Love is love is everything and as these two long time lovers sealed their love and marriage with a kiss, we captured the moment in time.


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Our 10th Wedding Anniversary, Caroline and Laurie Hart

We went on to renew our own marriage vows, as part of our 10th wedding anniversary celebrations, but this time it was with the law of the land officially recognizing it in every sense of the word. So, we’ve actually married each other three times and this year we celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary, still proud to love each other out loud.

Our journey has made us understand how important it is to use your voice to bring about change. We also appreciate the importance of standing up for others, because of the people standing up for us they changed our lives. Together is always the way forward and we’d love to hear your love story, sharing our stories does give hope to others, that is something we hear so often from those still struggling …. Spread some LOVE for PRIDE, because you could change someone's life and please watch and share our first short film STATUS UNKNOWN!

A message from someone we touched with our story.

“I’m still very much in the closet but your story gives me hope for the day I decide to throw that door wide open and step out.” Melissa


We are abundantly grateful to everyone who has supported us in anyway, from helping us fight for marriage equality, to the making of our short film, you hold a special place in our HEARTS!

For more information about STATUS UNKNOWN or to contact Caroline and Laurie Hart please contact us here.

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